NLP brings about self-development and change. First, you use it to work on yourself to become the person you really want to be and can be. Also, you work on yourself so that you can effectively help others. During an air travel and at the beginning of every flight, when you have sat down and put your seat belt on, the cabin crew have you at their mercy and they go through the safety procedures. At this point the frequent fliers bury themselves in the in-flight magazine, because they have heard it all before and some of them could recite it by heart, but always remember one thing about those safety procedures - if the cabin loses pressure, oxygen masks drop down and you should put them on before helping anyone else. Why? Because if you don't put your own mask on, you could pass out and then you are no good to anyone - yourself or another person.
Self-development is the equivalent of putting your own mask on first. The more you know about yourself, the more you are able to help others.
NLP is not about fixing other people and neglecting yourself. Put your own mask on first!
A popular speaker started off a seminar by holding up a $20 bill. A crowd of 200 had gathered to hear him speak. He asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?”
200 hands went up.
He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.” He crumpled the bill up.
He then asked, “Who still wants it?”
All 200 hands were still raised.
“Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?” Then he dropped the bill on the ground and stomped on it with his shoes.
He picked it up, and showed it to the crowd. The bill was all crumpled and dirty.
“Now who still wants it?”
All the hands still went up.
“My friends, I have just showed you a very important lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, life crumples us and grinds us into the dirt. We make bad decisions or deal with poor circumstances. We feel worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. You are special – Don’t ever forget it!
Keep feeling special and valued!
It's not necessary to be surrounded to be valued. The lion walks alone while the sheep walks in a herd.
The greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of Freedom. Hence do not be afraid of being outnumbered and do not spend time on worrying what other people think of you.
Therefore, one should not be afraid of an army of lions led by a sheep; one might still get afraid of an army of sheep led by a lion.
"Be a Lion, not a sheep,
A Victor, not a Victim,
And a Leader Versus a Follower." Robin Sharma
Today I would like to share with you a real story of the experiment that was done by Dr. Masaru Emoto.
He placed portions of cooked rice into three containers. On one container he wrote "Thank you", on the second one he wrote "You Fool" and the third one he completely ignored. He then instructed school children to say the labels on the jars out loud each day when they passed by the first two jars and ignore the third one.
After 30 days, the rice in the container with positive thoughts had barely changed, while the second one was turning black. The third one that was completely ignored, was moldy and rotten and the worst amongst all three of them.
By this experiment, he believed that our intentions do have an impact on matter. Hence he related it mainly to children and the way we treat kids. Although it is not confined to kids only and is equally applicable to adults. Hence you might have heard that: Ignorance is the best punishment you could ever give to anyone.
So I would like to reiterate this point that the choice of our words definitely have an impact on every single cell of anyone's mind or body. Hence in order to have happy and healthy people around us, let us treat them all with love and kindness.
I hope you agree with this: we get what we give so why not spread only positivity around us!
This process increases your perception, awareness and understanding. It changes your filters (that is how you perceive and interpret through your inner screening system) of the world. Imagine yourself in three different positions as described below:
Position 1: Being inside yourself, seeing, hearing, feeling and perceiving through your own filters.
Position 2: Being inside the other person: seeing, hearing, feeling and perceiving through someone else's filters. Give deep unconscious knowledge and insight of the other person's filters.
Position 3: Being above the two of you, and from a higher level observing the relationship down there. You are here seeing, hearing, feeling and perceiving through the filters of being an observer - this increases compassion, detachment and wisdom. This is the position that accesses the wisdom from your Spirit, from your Higher Consciousness.
This exercise is very effective for solving relationship conflicts, as it helps to expand your filters, so that you are able to connect more with your inner compassion and empathy. It also helps you to gain more information, which gives you more choices and enhances your own inner wisdom.
If we do an analysis of all the things, activities, behaviors, habits and actions that :
1) We Should Do and are Doing..
2) We Should Do and are Not Doing..
3) We Should Not Do and are Doing...
4) We Should Not Do and are Not Doing.
This will help us understand where we need to lay more focus on in our lives and where all we need to get rid of something which is not worth the effort.
Any behavior, action, activity or habit which falls in the First and the Fourth quadrant, is what we should continue with as it makes our life much easier and happier.
However, all the activities, behaviors etc. which show up in the Second or Third Quadrant are the ones which are not worth the time, energy and effort as it is hampering our lives.
We should try and work upon these areas and see how to channelize our energies more towards the first and fourth quadrant.
Why not do a self-analysis and make a difference to our own lives ourselves.
Good Luck with the Self introspection!
We are all made differently and have our own preferred ways of representing our experiences to ourselves. They form our own internal representation of the world.
With each experience, there are specific elements of pictures, sounds, or other sensations that can be changed in order to increase or decrease the intensity of our experience.
These foundational ingredients are called sub-modalities. They describe the quality of a sense.
By knowing which sub modalities trigger you, you’ll know how to increase your positive emotions and decrease your negative emotions.
Our ability to change the way we feel depends upon our ability to change our sub-modalities.
It’s not only what you focus on but how you focus on it which matters most.
So if we understand each other’s sub-modalities, it can help to communicate with them more effectively.
The challenge is that most of us take our limiting patterns and make them big, bright, close, loud or heavy – and then wonder why we feel overwhelmed.
If you’ve ever pulled yourself out of that state, it’s probably because you or somebody else took that image and changed it, redirecting your focus. You finally said, “Oh, that’s not a big deal.”
Hence, we can create our own blueprint that maps out how our brain is wired!